The Back Up Plan

Wedding plans in ruins, there are option’s….

Sound familiar?

I can relate to that, I should be getting married to my better half in a little over 6 weeks time.

Between hotels being closed, us stuck in one country while the wedding is planned in another plus the headache of needing a visa for my partner which we can’t get because the embassy is closed, all bets are off.

We need to re-arrange, which at first looked like it would be a nightmare.

What are the options???

As anyone who is planning a wedding will know, they are not cheap, so the first priority in our case was cancelling what we could and minimizing the financial impact.

Once we had done that (nothing like pouring over contracts to suck the romance out of the room), we quickly worked with the vendors to get money back or make settlements.

This was purely because we had fixed dates for being in the UK, and if those did’nt work we needed other options.

If you can delay, then use that option as it gives you time to get back on track, extra time to pay and you don’t lose deposits etc. just make sure you read the contracts and understand what the options are…

A back up plan fit for the king….

Uh-Huh, the back up plan is for us a stroke of collective genius.

We have a deadline to get married due to a pending work move and visa requirements. Looking at all the options and also being people that focus a lot on fun, we did some research.

Turns out Las Vegas even with flights and hotels is a very economical way to get hitched.

Having a suitable fake Elvis tie the know for us should also be great fun and give us some great memories, albeit we won’t get the special day with family and friends that we had planned.

While this works for us I understand it may not be the answer for you. Its important though to talk things through with your partner and work out what does the back up plan look like and how you will achieve it.

Final Thoughts

It can be a bit if a kick in the teeth to have to cancel, delay or rearrange, but as the saying goes:

A smooth sea, never made a skilled sailor

Life will throw curveballs at us from time to time, this is just a big one. There are plenty of options available without having to sacrifice money already spent.

Just make sure you know what the impact is for you and talk with you partner to work out the back up plan that works for you both.

If you can control that then it one less thing to stress about.

You could even be like us and take a trip to the meet the King, just make sure you don’t make a booking at the heartbreak hotel.

Dealing with Wedding delays How to make the best of a bad situation in these difficult times

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I get it, your dream wedding has been pushed back because of quarantine, its difficult to deal with and really not something you were prepared for.

I get it because it just happened with my Partner and I.

Its painful, its surprising and its stressful, but there can be ways to work around the situation and it may even be possible to see some positives in the situation and take some of the stress away from the whole process at the end of the day as strange as that may sound.

Let me start by saying that if this is happening to you right now, you are not alone. The positive is that you can find folks out there in the same position who will be happy to share information and support.

So what can we do in this situation?

Probably the most stressful thing about getting married is the costs, between outfits, venue, service, reception, chances are you have multiple contracts with multiple vendors and lots of different deposits out there with them. Some of the things we can do to control the situation is:

  • Take a deep breath, make a list of everything that would need to be moved around to reschedule the wedding
  • Read your contracts, if you can cancel and get your money back, then that may be what you want to do, after all that money is better in your bank account than with someone else
  • If you cannot cancel without penalty, understand that those vendors will be hurting also, and likely to be grateful to hold onto your business. Starting with the venue suggest that rather than cancelling, they give you a date that works for them to reschedule. This way you do not lose any money and are not having the stress of starting from scratch, then work down the vendor list, all of them will appreciate your business and flexibility, you may even find yourself with a discount, its a great time to negotiate
  • Review your desires vs your needs, if you for example have a time constraint for immigration perhaps, you want to be married before you have a child, whatever those constraints maybe, it may be better for your circumstances to go for the most basic possible wedding ceremony now and then celebrate with friends and family later

Financially, you may find that by having to delay a few months, as painful as that is personally and emotionally that it may lift a lot of stress from you in terms of financial commitment, having that extra time to prepare may just give you some breathing space and also the opportunity to enjoy it when it does arrive that much more because you had more space to prepare financially.

That extra time can help you to plan the day and set your expectations without the last minute rush that most people experiance in the run up to the big day.

Emotionally I know this can be a big blow, these are some of tips and hints we have used ourselves to make the situation a little better and I hope they can help you as well.

As ever feel free to share and to get in touch