I get it, your dream wedding has been pushed back because of quarantine, its difficult to deal with and really not something you were prepared for.
I get it because it just happened with my Partner and I.
Its painful, its surprising and its stressful, but there can be ways to work around the situation and it may even be possible to see some positives in the situation and take some of the stress away from the whole process at the end of the day as strange as that may sound.
Let me start by saying that if this is happening to you right now, you are not alone. The positive is that you can find folks out there in the same position who will be happy to share information and support.
So what can we do in this situation?
Probably the most stressful thing about getting married is the costs, between outfits, venue, service, reception, chances are you have multiple contracts with multiple vendors and lots of different deposits out there with them. Some of the things we can do to control the situation is:
- Take a deep breath, make a list of everything that would need to be moved around to reschedule the wedding
- Read your contracts, if you can cancel and get your money back, then that may be what you want to do, after all that money is better in your bank account than with someone else
- If you cannot cancel without penalty, understand that those vendors will be hurting also, and likely to be grateful to hold onto your business. Starting with the venue suggest that rather than cancelling, they give you a date that works for them to reschedule. This way you do not lose any money and are not having the stress of starting from scratch, then work down the vendor list, all of them will appreciate your business and flexibility, you may even find yourself with a discount, its a great time to negotiate
- Review your desires vs your needs, if you for example have a time constraint for immigration perhaps, you want to be married before you have a child, whatever those constraints maybe, it may be better for your circumstances to go for the most basic possible wedding ceremony now and then celebrate with friends and family later
Financially, you may find that by having to delay a few months, as painful as that is personally and emotionally that it may lift a lot of stress from you in terms of financial commitment, having that extra time to prepare may just give you some breathing space and also the opportunity to enjoy it when it does arrive that much more because you had more space to prepare financially.
That extra time can help you to plan the day and set your expectations without the last minute rush that most people experiance in the run up to the big day.
Emotionally I know this can be a big blow, these are some of tips and hints we have used ourselves to make the situation a little better and I hope they can help you as well.
As ever feel free to share and to get in touch