Lessons from the Silver Screen

Great life lesson’s from a movie called “Click”

Lessons from an Adam Sandler movie???

I know, I know…

In fairness it was a Sunday night and there was nothing else on Netflix we wanted to watch.

Christopher Walken is in the movie we thought we would give it a go.

Whats the worst that could happen right?

In the end although its not either actors crowning glory, it did provide us with some thoughts to take away and reflect on and some life lessons.

Not too often you get them in a 1hr 20 family comedy

Can you control life???

In the movie the basic premise is that with a magic remote control for your life, that this is possiblle to a certain extent.

So while there are no do-overs, you can fast forward on auto pilot through the bits of life you don’t like.

We see the main character hit the fast forward button through arguments, meetings, illness, work days.

The lesson: Live in the present, hit the fast forward button and all too soon life is over. Huge chunks of time can go by without you noticing.

Skip the small stuff and miss the big changes

As our character moves forward through life missing all the small “unimportant” stuff as he goes, more of his life is spent in fast forward.

By not living in the present he starts to miss the big changes and milestones in life.

Years pass by in a blur, loved ones die and family grows up and changes.

The lesson: Make time for the small stuff, and learn to enjoy it, it all adds up and adds color and context to the big changes in life as we experiance them.

Where’s the rewind button???

While we can spend too much time in fast forward mode, unfortunately for us in real life just like our lead character found in the movie their is no rewind button.

The lesson: We don’t get the chance for a do-over in life, its what we make of it the first and only time around.

What about a replay button then???

Luckily for us, we don’t need to be in a movie to have the advantage of a replay button.

That’s provided for us by the remote control that we have the ability to click in our brain.

The lesson: While we can’t go back and relive events we can replay them in our mind and learn from them.

Learning from our mistakes is surely one of the most powerful lessons we learn as children.

The power of that lesson should not be reduced as we grow older.

Takeaways

Life isn’t always simple, and of course there are times when we just wish we could hit the fast forward button.

However the joy of life is its many up’s, downs and challenges.

The things we enjoy, the things we learn to love, along with those parts of life we would rather not deal with, they all shape us amd make life what it is.

When things dont go so well, we don’t have a fast forward or rewind button.

What we have instead is a set of lessons we can learn and pass onto the next generation.

Watching them grow and being present for the small things that up to the big steps and changes in life is what counts.

The joy of life and of living is in the small stuff…

The Back Up Plan

Wedding plans in ruins, there are option’s….

Sound familiar?

I can relate to that, I should be getting married to my better half in a little over 6 weeks time.

Between hotels being closed, us stuck in one country while the wedding is planned in another plus the headache of needing a visa for my partner which we can’t get because the embassy is closed, all bets are off.

We need to re-arrange, which at first looked like it would be a nightmare.


What are the options???

As anyone who is planning a wedding will know, they are not cheap, so the first priority in our case was cancelling what we could and minimizing the financial impact.

Once we had done that (nothing like pouring over contracts to suck the romance out of the room), we quickly worked with the vendors to get money back or make settlements.

This was purely because we had fixed dates for being in the UK, and if those did’nt work we needed other options.

If you can delay, then use that option as it gives you time to get back on track, extra time to pay and you don’t lose deposits etc. just make sure you read the contracts and understand what the options are…


A back up plan fit for the king….

Uh-Huh, the back up plan is for us a stroke of collective genius.

We have a deadline to get married due to a pending work move and visa requirements. Looking at all the options and also being people that focus a lot on fun, we did some research.

Turns out Las Vegas even with flights and hotels is a very economical way to get hitched.

Having a suitable fake Elvis tie the know for us should also be great fun and give us some great memories, albeit we won’t get the special day with family and friends that we had planned.

While this works for us I understand it may not be the answer for you. Its important though to talk things through with your partner and work out what does the back up plan look like and how you will achieve it.


Final Thoughts

It can be a bit if a kick in the teeth to have to cancel, delay or rearrange, but as the saying goes:

A smooth sea, never made a skilled sailor

Life will throw curveballs at us from time to time, this is just a big one. There are plenty of options available without having to sacrifice money already spent.

Just make sure you know what the impact is for you and talk with you partner to work out the back up plan that works for you both.

If you can control that then it one less thing to stress about.

You could even be like us and take a trip to the meet the King, just make sure you don’t make a booking at the heartbreak hotel.

Attitude

The one thing that can make or break a career

Really?

Yeah I have some bad news, our attitude really is the difference between making it or not in our careers.

There is an idiom that often gets shared on social media where someone has written hard work, punctuality and a few other words on a white board and underneath each word they added the number in the alphabet for each letter and added those up.

Its goes on until the bottom word which is attitude equals 100% and I think thats true, there is quote I love which goes:

A bad attitude is like a flat tyre, you can’t go anywhere unless you change it

Its one thing that we all have the ability to change, and the one thing that can make a huge difference in our lives.

A little humility goes a long way

Life happens to us all, maybe we lose out on a promotion or our dream move, or maybe we are less motivated by what we do than we used to be.

The situation can spiral out of control if we let it. Our attitude goes downhill and before we know it we are in a worse situation than we were to begin with.

When these bumps in the road come along its important to keep perspective, and keep a good attitude, the opportunity will come along again and with a little self reflection you can be ready for it.

Even worse is the situation when sadly a job is lost, which in the market right now is happening more and more.

Its really hard to keep perspective and a good attitude during these time, especially coming from a highly paid job to something very different. There can be rewards however, a different perspective on life for example that will pay us back in time.


Final Thoughts

A smile, a laugh, a joke , humility and hard work are the good attributes and attitude that can keep us going and keep us in a job, almost more than anything else I can think of.

In the horrible event that anyone of us loses a job, then its that same good attitude and sense of perspective that will help get us through.

As an ex colleague of mine remarked today after taking a job in a garden centre part time:

I really miss the salary and the free lunches in a fancy restaurant paid for by someone else, but working hard, meeting people and then eating a sandwich in the back of car at lunchtime, has given me a whole new respect and perspective on life

Attitude really is the thing that makes the difference….

Traveling the world

Its bigger than you think but smaller than ever

Smaller and more connected than ever before

The age of the internet really does mean that the world seems smaller and is certainly more connected than ever before, but that doesnt mean we should’nt take the change to explore it.


The magic of travel

The experiance of the sights, sounds, smell and culture of the places you travel to and experiance, just cannot be replicated by watching or reading something online or in a book.

The magic of travel is soaking up all of those things in person, meeting the people, visiting the landmarks, travelling between places and trying new things, new experiences.


Travel broadens the mind, but often empties the wallet

This is one of the single biggest fears that a lot of people have.

While I can’t say that this isn’t totally untrue, travel today is much cheaper than we tend to think it is, and in fact there are more opportunities to be paid to travel for work than ever before.

Budget airlines, air bnb and group travel options all make it cheaper than you might think to go take a life changing trip.

Or you could explore the career options which allow you to travel for work, these are almost endless and go from long distance track driving and sailing through engineering, sales, management, the list of jobs and list of industries is endless.

If you want to travel and see the world, the options to do that are endless.


Final thoughts

The world really is smaller and more connected than ever before, yes they are some challenges and getting out there right now, but once those end the world is out there.

If you want to make the most of it and see what you can, then the options are there.

When the going gets tough

It can be hard to get going

The tough get going apparantly, but what about the rest of us?

Well today the going is definitely getting tough, from cancelled wedding plans, vacation plans, job losses and illnesses, their are so many challenges for us in the world right now.

That old saying:

When the going gets tough, the tough get going

Can feel like a joke, at the best of times and especially so nowadays.

Here is the thing though, for the rest of us the same rule applies.

Its just a case of putting on foot in front of the other

This is it, the secret to getting through those tough times, is just taking one step at a time.

This is the secret that the tough live by when they do get going. Its not that they are tougher than the rest of us, more resilient nor do they have superpowers.

They just compartmentalize the challenges and take them 1 step at a time.

Keep going its almost never as bad as it seems

There is a statement made by the US military that when you think your done and can’t go on any further that in reality your only 40% done, you have much more left in the tank than you realize.

By putting on foot in front of the other and making small steps they achieve the aim and get through it.

You can do the same.

How?

Four things you can do when the going gets tough to make it easier to come out the other side of the struggles you may face:

  • Write the problem down, getting it out of your head onto paper will release some stress
  • Take the problem and write down the steps you need to take to make it through and keep these with you, tick them off as you go
  • Compartmentalize it all, break it down in sections to work through, don’t try to tackle everything at once
  • Talk to someone, a problem shared is a problem halved

These things are what those tough people do when the going gets tough, to work through the issue.

Final Thoughts

Life can be tough at times, but its manageable. You don’t need superhuman abilities to overcome struggles in life, just a strategy.

As always what works for you is RIGHT for YOU, but these are some lessons ive learned over the years which im happy to share, and if they help anyone then that’s great.

Turning Negatives into Positives

Its all in our heads

The glass is always half full

At least this is my attitude, in the eternal optimist.

Not everyone understands that way of thinking and people who think this way can appear to be naïve or living in a different world at times.

Neither impression is quite correct but I do think that being an optimist or opportunist makes you look at the world in a different way.


A World of Opportunity???

Depends on the way you look at the world and the situations you find yourself in.

Often times the only difference between negativity and positivity is what’s in our heads.

When we think negative thoughts or negative words about a given situation come out our mouth, they really influence the outcome of the situation and our thoughts about it.

Im not suggesting that we all need to be joyously happy all the time, but if we look for the positives in a situation it can make a huge difference in how we see the world.

A world of opportunity is only ever a positive thought away, its that simple.


Final Thoughts

I was reading the book by the Motorcycle Racer and Commentator Steve Parrish the other day and it really was the inspiration for writing this today.

While I probably don’t have quite the same attitude as him, I do see where we share similar traits which I think are worth sharing.

Any situation in life no matter how dire it may seem has something positive in it, even if that’s just the fact that your learned a life lesson its a positive.

Humor often works also to change the mood, and again positive humor changes the mindset.

Its amazing what such a small change in mindset can do.

The next time you feel negative thoughts bubbling through, try simple smiling, laughing at them or deleting them by saying something positive, you may well be surprised at the outcome.